Well it seems to be Wedding Wednesday here at Simple Southern Charm! I think that most southern belles love weddings and love! I am the same way! I just love weddings in general, not just dreaming about my own wedding lol. The wedding industry has taken off and there are so many wedding shows about the gowns, the planners, the bridesmaids, and even the bridezillas! And i must admit that I watch them all. I believe that I get this trait from my mother. My mom has done her share of helping her friends and church members plan their special day and she has an eye for special events. Now she is the head of the wedding ministry at our church in Pensacola. And she loves her job! I grew up looking in her wedding books and even her own wedding album. I still hear stories of how my mom was something of a Bridezilla with 12 bridesmaids, 12 groomsman 3 wedding coordinators, flowers flown in from Argentina, a huge reception with 2 open bars, and a custom made gown. Whew!! Yes all of that in 1981! All of my friends know that she is just waiting for one of her daughters to get engaged so she can release the MOMzilla! EEKKK!! lol! Let's just say that it is going to be an adventure to say the least. I know that she is even going to try to help my friends plan their weddings! Lord help them too!
Usually moms are very hands-on with their daughters' weddings and help with planning the special day. But what about the dads? I am a huge daddy's girl and my dad and I are very, very close. There is a southern tradition for the guy to ask the father for permission to marry his daughter. Although times have changed and some couples no longer practice this tradition, I still think that this is very important. I don't necessarily think that the groom is ASKING for permission, but letting the father know that he wishes to marry his daughter and promise the dad that he will take good care of his daughter. From other ladies I have heard that this tradition may be too old fashioned and when you are an older bride it is not needed, since the bride is living on her own. But no matter how old of a bride I am I still feel like my dad should be consulted. I believe that the father will be honored. This will give them a chance to give advice and maybe even help with some part of the proposal. (I know that my daddy has great taste and would know exactly what I would like.)
My dad has already made it clear by saying, "If a man plans on marrying my daughters, he better come tell me something!" I know that's right daddy! I know that there may be different situations. However I still believe that the groom-to-be should consult at least someone that is close to her like a father-figure, brother, grandpa, mother, sister, etc. Even Mama Jones felt slighted when she did not know about Chrissy's planned proposal to Jim Jones!
I may be old fashioned so tell me what you think! To ask or not to ask.. that is the question!
